Posted: 17 March 2005 at 3:02am | IP Logged

Is it possible? i have a gf, she has never seen my stomach..... and never will

Im really shy infront of girls but generally they dont see me as some fat ogre however beneath the clothes are boobs and a gut, although looking from the outside..... you cant tell

Posted: 17 March 2005 at 11:46am | IP Logged

First of all, yes, of course heavy people can get dates.... believe it or not, there *are* people out there who look beyond the outside.  I have a a few overweight male friends who have no trouble with the ladies because they are nice, intelligent and have personalities... qualities most people look for anyhow.

It sounds like you have some major self esteem issues.  Generally if people can't tell your overweight with your clothes on, then you probably aren't that overweight!  Clothing may hide rolls, but its not camoflage!  Maybe you just need to tone up a bit?

Working out may be a two fold solution - 1 - working out has been shown to increase self esteem, 2 - working out helps to build muscle and burn fat.

I don't know you, so I don't really know if it bothers you that you don't take your shirt off infront of your girlfriend, but I'm sure it probably bothers you that you don't feel as free and comfortable as other people at the beach, pool, etc... is that at least a bit of a motivator to change something you're currently doing for the betterment of your health?

Lastly, why do you want to know if you can pick up if you already have a gf??